This holiday season will soon be on us. This is a time to spend with family, and friends. However, if you have ever been betrayed by a loved one that lied about who he or she was, it is a bittersweet time. So many people lie about who they are, and lead double lives. In return the truth eventually comes out leaving victims devastated, and emotionally, financially and numb.

 

I remember the good times, were there in bunches, and yet, I remember the bad times, when the shock of what he had done to me, had settled in.  I was left financially devastated, emotionally drained, and scared for my life. I still look over my shoulders and will always do that.

 

He had threatened my life many many times, and stole my trust in love. I realize that he himself could never really love anyone, and deluded everyone who he ever said he loved them.  These con artists, and predators do not understand love.

 

Let go of the grief and give thanks that a. you still have your family, your friends, and your life. It may not be the fantasy that he tore asunder,

but you can build your life up.  It takes time, and you may never regain trust again, and your credit will be ruined. Life is about moving on.

 

I still seek justice, but have moved on.  I realized that however much I loved him, I was in love with the fantasy that he presented to me.

He lied about who he was, and therefore, he was a non person. He doesn't exist.

 

I have also realize that life is not perfect, and humans make mistakes. I had little reason to think that loving someone would lead to a poor choice.

 

Just to know that I survived whatever he did to me, and I am helping others, and am moving on.  I am thankful for my true family, my sons, my grandchildren, my friends, and my father. I am thankful for my career, and my writing, and my health. I have gained back my dignity, and my self-worth. Those are things he could never take away from me. He was vicious, and cruel, and lied about everything to do with him.

 

All for the facade of being grander or greater than what he really was: a common thief, a liar, and a fraud.

 

To the victims of him and others like him: be they men or women, KNOW this: they cannot take away our new life, or new beginnings, nor can they ever be anyone with security. They are always operating under a guise of normalcy, and have that fear that someone will find the holes in their narcissitic stories. They are frauds, and will never ever change their ways.

Thank you for those that have signed the Petition, and thank you for supporting our cause. It would be nice if this passes, and there will be one less victim for those predators to catch.

 

Have a  Happy Thanksgiving, and be glad that you have a new beginning, it's your turn to move on.

 

 

This country is in need of a way to check whether or not someone is married, or really who they say they are. Signatures are growing in support for the National Database of Marriages and Divorces. The marriages and divorces records are public notices anyway, but there is not a centralized database that enables persons to check if someone is married or not.

 

Far from it, the marriage clerks take at word the statement of someone saying they are not married. It stands to reason tht we need a better system in place.

 

Help us make this system clean up its act, by signing the petition for a National Marriage and Divorces database.