According to the NJ Department of Corrections: 

 

William M. Barber is: currently serving: 3 years for 1 count/merged count of: 2C:28-7*3 Tamper/Public Records/3  Office Date January 5, 2001

 

HOWEVER: PLEASE NOTE: HE IS SCHEDULED TO BE UP FOR PAROLE IN NOVEMBER 2007. SO he may just get out earlier.

 

(note he was still living with me in January, did NOT leave me until January 11)  He got 3 years. He served only 10 months of this sentence and was put on Parole. He skipped parole, was arrested in Mo, and extradited back to NJ. He is now incarcerated in CRAF, and another sentence of 352 days has been added.

 

Again, the victims of Barber had written to the judge during the original sentencing, telling the Judge he will do this again. He did!

 

1 count/merged count of 2 CL28-7AI*3 Tamper/Public Record-False Entry/3 was added, the offense date: December 11, 2006.

 

It never ceases to amaze me that authorities allow these people to get off, they are repeat offenders and have been doing these things all their lives, practically.

 

When you look at other cases that have gone to trial, you can notice a trend, the criminals almost always get away with a light sentence and very little time. It is just ridiculous.

 

This man has had more than   THREE  strikes against him. How many more strikes will he need for authorities to understand that he will continue to find victims? How many other people will have to suffer at the hands of this predator?

 

I don't have the answers, but I know that even in prison he has the ability to write to someone, call someone, etc. He will not stop because he will continue to con another victim.  He is Good at letting other people believe that he is not to blame for the crimes he does, but that the  victims are the ones to blame.  Hmm narcissistic sociopath.....Oh they do spin their webs of deceit!

 

 

Everytime you see a couple, you think of them; people who appeared to know and understand you greatly.  Perhaps your world came crashing down, because the very person you entrusted your heart to betrayed you.

 

Yes, betrayed!  Everyone should expect the common courtesty to be honest and full of integrity.  I was betrayed by some like that.  In the years since my betrayal happened to me, I grew.  I realized that I may have been a victim, and did allow myself to become a victim, I have grown. I REFUSE to allow myself to be a victim of my predator.

You could say that he capitalized on my gullibility, and belief that people are truthful and honest when they do say I Love You. It takes me a while to truly say I Love you to someone. He knew all the right words, said and did all the right things, and I hungered for someone to love me decently.

 

I have found that with each passing minute someone falls victim to a predator: be they con artists, psychopathic liars, sociopaths, there are victims by the millions, not just in the US but in other countries. Such as England, Nigeria, Russia, France, Germany. The list is endless.

 

The Internet makes it easier for these predators to find their prey.  When my predator left me, he had a list of internet victims ready for the taking.  I was and will NOT be his only victim.  I have seen his profile on Match.com, Doctor.com, Singles.com, and various other internet dating websites.  I couldn't believe my eyes when I was able to hack into a couple of computers that he had hidden away in a storage facility.  I gained access to the facility because he made me his Power of Attorney, and the check of which was many bounced! I made good on that check just to see if the furniture he took was in the facility. It was, along with various other items of interests.

 

I joined some of the dating sites, to see if I could find my predator: anyone can make up who they are, how much they make, and what personality they are.  That is scary.

 

However, if you were betrayed, don't be depressed or upset over the lies these people said. IT was just whisps of clouds that blow in the wind. Can't hang on to something that was never real. Yes, it was real on your  part, but not the predator.

This day may be for lovers, but know this: It is a day for you. A day for you to know that You are worthy of love, you are worthy of so much more than your predator had to offer. Yes, it is a tramatic thing to go through, but you are NOT alone. 

 

We do need tighter marriage laws, and immigration laws. It is ridiculous that marriage scams are more rampage in our country than others.

 

I have heard from victims of Russian con artists, Nigerian con artists, and Mexican con artists, these people come over to the United States trying to find a victim that will marry them. Some of them are all ready married overseas, or remarry someone else. They always go for greener pastures without the benefit of following the laws of our country. However, our marriage laws are a travesty. We have over 3, 000 counties, and many states and territories, and the marriage clerks are overworked.

 

It is easy to commit the crime of bigamy. It is easy to commit the crime of fraud. It is easy to commit the crime of identity theft. It happens so often that law enforcement try to either disregard the crime (especially in the crime of bigamy) or they are overwhelmed with the number of cases that cross their desks.

 

Those of you who are going through this horrible traumatic time in your life: realize first off that A. You are worthy of being loved, and it is ok to Love yourself. It is ok to do for yourself. Don't give up the fight to make your predator pay!

Sandra Brown  wrote an interesting book. "HOW TO SPOT A DANGEROUS MAN".  It is a good resource and could help you come to terms with how to NOT be a victim of another predator or con man or woman again.  We all need resources and information that would help us go with what is hapening to us and probably help us stop being a victim.

 

Here is a link about her, and another resource.

 

Sandra L. Brown MA Psychotherapist and author of HOW TO SPOT A DANGEROUS MAN,

 

Here is the link to looking at her book and perhaps buying it

 

<a href="http://danrousman.howtospot.hop.clickbank.net/?tid=RRZFV242" target="_top">Click Here!</a>

 

 Sandra has had experience with helping others through abuse and other relationship matters. She is a good resource for anyone to have.